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Top 5 Tips to Make Friends at University
As many young people are fleeing their nests for the first time and setting off to uni, it is a large hurdle to overcome. Socialising and making friends with people you will be in the company of for the next (at least) 3 years can be even more daunting. Here are a few tips I have come up with to help you shy folks build strong friendships during your first year of university.
- Put yourself into social situations: throw yourself into every society try out and party and rave and takeaway movie night there is on offer, especially during freshers week because then you have the opportunity to make conversation with people who many share the same interests and views as you. Shutting yourself in your room by 8pm every night is unhealthy and potentially dangerous for your health, you need to speak to people to grow and develop vital social skills and self-confidence.
- Talk and initiate plans: one big reason why people fail at making good friendships is because they don’t follow up on making plans with people they’ve already met. There is no harm in dropping someone a text offering to meet for a coffee or a pint and a chat. Friendship is a two way road; you need to get the balance right regarding putting in effort with people you have met.
- Accept that not everyone will like you: it is impossible to please everyone but those that accept you as yourself are worth having around. Don’t splash the cash, especially when you’re a student on fancy clothes and drinks for everyone because you will be giving a false image of yourself, this isn’t something you want to do when starting university. Don’t forget you may be spending the next three years with the people you meet during freshers.
- Chat to people in queues: this is a great way to make friends with people who have slightly the same interest as you, there is a lot of queuing during freshers for events so get talking to the people you’re stood near and you never know, may find your new best friends.
- Don’t eat alone: shutting yourself in your room to do activities besides bathing, sleeping and studying isn’t healthy and you are missing out on valuable time you could be socialising with your flatmates. All pitch in a few quid and make a big one pot meal for you all to share. Come up with regular meals you can all sit together and eat, for example, taco/Mexican night or curry. You could even invite other friends around for food before going on a night out, (this is also a really good idea because drinking on an empty stomach can be potentially be fatal).